DEAR ABBY: I lived in New York all my life. I moved to Florida a 12 months in the past due to my well being and to be close to my daughter and granddaughters. I’ve been depressed ever since I acquired right here. I miss New York and my greatest good friend very a lot. I can’t sleep. I sit and cry and I’ve no motivation to do something. My daughter has been nice to me, however when I attempt to discuss to my husband about how I really feel, he doesn’t care. He yells and walks away. I’m so confused. I really feel I can’t transfer on. Are you able to give me any recommendation? — DISPLACED IN THE SOUTH
DEAR DISPLACED: Your cause for transferring to Florida was a rational one. Nevertheless, emotions are usually not all the time rational. Your transfer has positioned you in a state of affairs the place the environment are unfamiliar and your assist system (your greatest good friend) is not there for you.
The signs you’ve got described are these of a deep despair. Don’t permit it to grow to be persistent. Some classes with a licensed psychological well being adviser could provide help to to regulate to your new circumstances so you possibly can discover your choices for extra social interplay.
P.S. I want you had requested me in regards to the knowledge of relocating earlier than you probably did it as a result of I’d have suggested you to hire for a 12 months to make sure you’ll be comfortable in Florida earlier than making it everlasting.
DEAR ABBY: My husband and I’ve been married for six years. The issue is his sister and the emotional maintain she appears to have on him. There have been a number of situations wherein she has been disrespectful and invasive the place OUR enterprise is anxious.
Once I object to my husband about it, his response is both that he’s sorry or he acts like he doesn’t perceive why I discover her conduct intrusive. When he talks to her on the telephone, it’s as if he feels compelled to inform her OUR enterprise, i.e. monetary standing, which I’ve informed him repeatedly is none of her enterprise, to which he agreed. But he just lately did it once more.
He acts like he’s afraid of her — like she has some sort of emotional maintain on him. I’m about to blow a gasket. I wish to revisit the topic in a manner that he’ll FINALLY perceive my perspective and never be so desperate to share every little thing that goes on in our residence. Any ideas? — PRIVATE PERSON IN ILLINOIS
DEAR PRIVATE: You and your husband had been raised in two totally different sorts of households. His is extra open; yours, not a lot. I’d be curious to know whether or not your husband divulges this monetary info of his personal volition, or if his sister quizzes him about it. As a result of this makes you uncomfortable and you’ve got requested your husband to chorus from doing it, it might take skilled mediation to get by to him. Please contemplate it.
Pricey Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren, often known as Jeanne Phillips, and was based by her mom, Pauline Phillips. Contact Pricey Abby at DearAbby.com or P.O. Field 69440, Los Angeles, CA 90069.